Employee Well-being

Fix the System, Not the People: Lessons from Jordan Friesen

When it comes to workplace mental health, many organizations ask how their employees can better manage stress. But what if we asked how to stop causing it in the first place?

In this episode of Meaningful Work Matters, Andrew Soren is joined by Jordan Friesen, occupational therapist and Founder and President of Mindset Mental Health Strategy, to unpack why traditional well-being efforts often fall short. Drawing from lived experience, years of leadership consulting, and national policy work, Friesen makes the case for a systems-level approach to mental health at work.

The conversation challenges leaders to think beyond individual interventions and toward the design of work itself—what’s creating harm, what needs to change, and how to build cultures that prioritize health before heroism.

Redesigning Work, Not Workers

One of Friesen’s central arguments is that most workplace mental health strategies are misdirected.

“There’s a lot of focus on giving people hard hats,” he says—referring to programs like mindfulness training, EAPs, or resilience workshops. “But that doesn’t help if bricks are still falling from the floors above.”

In other words, it’s not enough to teach people how to cope. Leaders need to examine the actual sources of stress (e.g. poor communication, excessive workload, unclear roles) and fix them at the source.

Friesen frames this as a design problem, not a performance issue. He draws from his early clinical experience and systems training to argue that the structure of work itself must be addressed if we want sustainable well-being. As he puts it:

“The issue isn’t that people aren’t resilient. The issue is that the system keeps wearing them down.”

Safety Comes First—Then Meaning

Friesen also speaks to a common tension in many purpose-driven organizations: people are deeply committed to their work, yet still burning out. Why? Because meaning alone isn’t protective.

“Meaning can be a powerful motivator,” he notes, “but if the environment isn’t safe… it can actually make things worse.” Healthcare workers, educators, and nonprofit professionals often derive deep meaning from their work, but are also among the most at risk for burnout and moral distress.

As Soren points out, this is similar to Scott Barry Kaufman’s reimagining of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs not as a pyramid, but as a boat. The hull represents safety and stability; the sail, our potential and purpose. Without the hull, the sail doesn’t matter.

Leadership That Supports Mental Health

While systems need to change, Friesen is clear that leaders have a major role to play, and often underestimate their influence. “Your direct manager has as much impact on your mental health as your spouse or partner,” he shares, referencing a global survey of over 5,000 employees.

This level of influence demands a new kind of leadership. One that requires skill development to notice when someone is struggling, ask questions with empathy, and connect people to the right support.

Friesen outlines key skills he feels managers need:

  • The ability to give and receive feedback (not just praise or criticism)

  • Emotional literacy: being able to name and acknowledge feelings—both yours and others’

  • The courage to show vulnerability and model openness

“Empathy isn’t just a trait. It’s a communication skill. It needs to be practiced out loud.”

Measuring What Matters

Despite growing awareness of mental health at work, Friesen notes that most organizations still don’t measure their efforts in meaningful ways. Voluntary standards like Canada’s national psychological safety framework exist, but uptake is low and few organizations track progress over time.

Why? “As soon as you measure it, you become accountable for it,” he says. That can feel risky to leaders who aren’t sure where to start.

Still, some are stepping up. Soren highlights organizations like DHL, which are rolling out regular “Are You Okay?” surveys across regions to better understand and respond to employee needs. Friesen encourages employers to take both a qualitative and quantitative approach: collect data, but also elevate stories and lived experiences.

Why This Conversation Matters

If we want people to find meaning in their work, we have to start by ensuring that work isn’t hurting them. Until we build systems that prevent harm and train leaders who support well-being, individual interventions will only go so far.

This episode offers a grounded, hopeful roadmap. One that starts with listening, learning, and the willingness to take shared responsibility for how we work.

Key Takeaways

  • Mental health at work is a systems issue, not an individual one.

  • Leaders have significant influence over employee well-being and need better training to support it.

  • Meaningful work depends on foundational safety. Without it, even purpose-driven roles can lead to burnout.

  • Measurement matters, ****but it must include both data and personal stories.

  • Empathy is a leadership skill, and like any skill, it can be practiced.

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Understanding Our Multitudes: Lessons from Reb Rebele [Parts One & Two]

In this episode of Meaningful Work Matters, host Andrew Soren chats with Reb Rebele, a psychological scientist, author, teacher, and advisor. Rebele teaches MBA students in Melbourne, Australia and brings over a decade of experience researching positive psychology and organizational behavior at the University of Pennsylvania. Rebele dedicates their career to helping individuals, teams, and organizations improve well-being, enhance creativity and collaboration, and achieve their goals.

In Part One, Soren and Rebele explore the dynamic nature of personality and how understanding our different personality states can help us navigate the complexities of meaningful work. Rebele challenges common assumptions about authenticity and examines ways to intentionally adjust our personality expression to achieve our goals while maintaining sincerity in our work lives.

Breaking Down the Personality Box

As Rebele declares, "nobody really wants to be just one kind of person." Their research highlights how we all possess core personality traits that persist over time, yet contain multitudes of possible ways of being.

This insight challenges the traditional view of personality as fixed and unchangeable.

The data tells us that even the most introverted person experiences moments of high extroversion, and vice versa. These fluctuations stem not just from our situations, but from our goals and motivations in the moment.

When we want to connect with others, we act more extroverted.

When we pursue productivity or achievement, different aspects of our personality emerge.

The Authenticity Paradox

Rebele's work also challenges conventional wisdom about authenticity.

Rather than equating authenticity with behavioral consistency, Rebele’s research suggests that truly authentic people express different sides of themselves based on their goals and context.

Authenticity can become a restrictive box - one we place ourselves in and others place us in. When we demand constant authenticity while assuming someone embodies just one personality type, we limit their freedom to express their full range of experiences and interactions.

Managing Your Multiple Selves at Work

Understanding personality dynamics offers practical strategies for those seeking meaningful work. Rebele emphasizes how tasks that require us to act against our natural dispositions drain additional energy and resources.

Success lies not in avoiding these situations, but in managing them strategically.

Rebele goes on to share an example. "I exercise before teaching, think about my caffeine intake, and ensure I get enough rest. Without these preparations, I tend toward neurotic and withdrawn behavior." These are the kinds of deliberate efforts most of us practice to bring out the right versions of ourselves at the right time.

The Power of Restorative Niches

Personality psychologist Brian Little's concept of "restorative niches" plays a crucial role in managing our different personality states. Rebele recommends developing a recovery menu for various time frames:

  • Two minutes: Deep breathing, window gazing, or quick movement

  • Two hours: Extended breaks for deeper recovery

  • Two days: Weekend restoration

  • Two weeks: Complete vacation disconnection

This systematic approach to recovery helps professionals sustain their energy and authenticity while meeting their work's varying demands.

The Leadership Challenge

Middle managers face particularly high burnout rates because they must constantly switch between different work modes - from one-on-one support to strategic thinking to group facilitation. Yet organizations rarely provide tools to manage these transitions effectively.

Rebele recommends practical approaches like designating "maker days" and "manager days" to group tasks requiring different personality states.

Success depends on recognizing how different tasks demand different versions of ourselves and creating supportive conditions for those transitions.

Looking Ahead

By embracing our multiple selves and understanding the conditions that bring out different aspects of our personality, we gain greater agency in our professional lives. We can move beyond simplistic notions of authenticity toward a more nuanced understanding of how to show up as our best selves in different contexts.

Part 2 will explore collaboration's dark sides, generosity's pitfalls, and strategies for avoiding burnout while making a difference.


In Part Two of our conversation with Reb Rebele, we explore a paradox: while collaboration and generosity are essential elements of meaningful work, they can become counterproductive when not properly managed.

Building on our previous discussion about personality dynamics, Rebele reveals how organizational practices around collaboration and helping behaviors often undermine the very outcomes they aim to achieve.

The Hidden Costs of Being the "Go-To" Person

Rebele's research with colleague Rob Cross reveals that collaborative activities in organizations have increased by over 50% in recent years. This surge represents a fundamental shift in how work gets done.

"Even before the pandemic pushed everybody onto Zoom," Rebele explains, "time spent at work in collaborative activities had ballooned by 50% or more."

The consequences of this shift are counterintuitive.

Through network analysis studies, Rebele and Cross found that employees with reputations for being effective information sources and helpful colleagues often face the highest risk of burnout and turnover. "You become known as the really helpful, smart, good information source person. It sets the seeds for your potential demise in that organization," Rebele notes. This pattern creates a paradox where organizations inadvertently drive away their most valuable collaborators.

The rise of remote work has intensified these challenges.

Rebele points to Microsoft's research on the "triple peak workday," where employees now face three distinct peaks of collaborative activity—morning, afternoon, and a new post-dinner surge. This pattern suggests that rather than creating more flexibility, hybrid work may be expanding the collaborative demands on our time.

The Generosity Burnout Trap

Parallel to the collaboration challenge, Rebele's research with teachers showed that the most selfless educators had students who achieved less than teachers who maintained healthy boundaries.

"We think about self-development often as kind of a selfish activity," Rebele observes. "We discount the fact that if I take that time now, it might make me even better at helping people later on."

This insight challenges the common assumption that more helping is always better, and instead suggests instead that sustainable impact requires balancing generosity with self-care.

Systematic Solutions for Sustainable Collaboration

Rather than treating excessive collaboration as an individual problem, Rebele advocates for systematic organizational approaches.

One example is Dropbox's innovative experiment with a "meeting reset," where the company temporarily removed all recurring meetings from calendars and established new norms around meeting participation. This intervention allowed teams to rebuild their collaborative practices more intentionally.

Rebele also recommends practical strategies for individuals:

Creating a "help network map" to understand patterns of giving and receiving assistance across your professional relationships. This exercise reveals not just who you help, but also identifies potential resources you might be underutilizing.

Developing what Brian Little calls "restorative niches"—spaces and times for recovery between collaborative demands. These can range from two-minute breaks between meetings to longer periods of focused work.

Minutes

  • Deep breaths
  • Look out a window
  • Quick stretch

Weeks

  • Full mental rest
  • New environments
  • Passion project

Hours

  • Proper lunch break
  • Walk outside
  • Exercise

Days

  • Engage in hobbies
  • Time in nature
  • Complete disconnection
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Reimagining Collaboration for Meaningful Work

The challenge, Rebele suggests, isn't to eliminate collaboration but to make it more purposeful.

"We need to manage it well, and we need to think about how to manage it together, because our default behaviors very often lead us into a place where we get more of the worst of both worlds."

This means rethinking traditional approaches to workplace interaction.

For instance, rather than defaulting to standard hybrid work policies focused on days per week in the office, organizations might consider alternative structures like monthly or quarterly in-person collaboration periods.

The goal is to create conditions where both connection and individual work can thrive.

As Rebele notes, "Collaboration is important to the organization...It's where a lot of good ideas come from. It's also really important to employees...It's the social side of meaningful work."

Looking Forward

The insights from this conversation suggest a framework for thinking about collaboration and generosity in the context of meaningful work. Rather than maximizing these behaviors, the focus shifts to optimizing them—creating sustainable practices that enhance both individual wellbeing and organizational effectiveness.

By understanding the dynamics of collaboration and generosity, we can build work environments that support meaningful connection without leading to burnout.

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